One of my happiest momemts when my son was around 6 or 7 years old... (it's been awhile) so I'm guessing here. Although, I do remember he was very young and that's what surprised me a bit.
My wife and I along with our son Kyle, was walking out of the shopping mall. We got about 25 feet from the door and I turned and he was not behind us. My heart dropped for just a minute and then as I turned back to look at the door. He was standing there holding the door for some of the people that were coming out behind us.
Where did that come from. I couldn't have been more proud as a father. He had seen us do it for others in the past but no words were ever exchanged about it. The opportunity arrived and he responded like minded. The couple made a big fuss over it and we both as parents lit up like christmas trees.
Children are watching... and in time they will show you a reflection of yourself in many ways because they get alot from you. More than you think they do.
It also reminds of another time in church where another couple must have felt the exact same way. It was during church and the smaller children had come back into the building from having (small church). They were carrying balloons and they must have had a good time.
During the service, just as the pastor was giving his sermon. A young girl sitting in the second row, to the right of isle, her balloon popped. You could have thought the world had just ended. Everyone jumped. Then without even a thought from anyone, a young boy walked over from the pews to the left and handed her his balloon and then walked back to his seat. No one expected it and by the faces of his parents, especially them. They had to have felt the same way I did. It brought the most beautiful sigh from the entire church.
I believe more was taken from that service in that one moment than anything else the entire service.
As I study and research more and more about child development and how our children are growing up with self-image issues at times, it makes me think of times like these and I wonder just what all they are picking up from us as parents. My research has shown me that our children have inherited our belief patterns as a starter and then they slowly grow up but it's those early belief patterns that effect how they grow as adults.
Our belief patterns were also inherited from our parents, grandparents, environment and our surroundings. If there is anything about your life, you don't like, in most cases your children will grow up with the same belief patterns. They are watching and it's effecting their lives.
Those moments I shared in these two stories are happy moments, but they didn't happen every day. Although, every day our children are picking up signals that are also being made apart of their lives.
I always wonder what more I could have done. My son is now 22 years old. He still makes me proud but I still wonder what I could have done better.
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